This is a translation and update of the article “Kako se samoizgrađivati i zašto?” in English
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Life is full of changes. Smaller and larger. I will repeat that until you learn 
Changes are just switching from one state to another.
There are positive changes, that is when things are changing how we want. Negative changes, when things are changing as we do not want. And when we do not change, we stand in place. This is when you try to avoid any change, as long as possible, but it is impossible to maintain this state, because everything is subject to impermanence, even to avoid any possible changes, your body will start to deteriorate in the natural process of aging, right? And why do it? It’s like you’re dead.
So, changes are inevitable. Your mind should always be open to change, right?
Life is one big and constantly change. So life is a big opportunity for improvement, ie. positive change.
How?
Well, anyone who is alive, he must learn, and develop, you can not avoid that. Or you decide by yourself, or your life take you to new experiences that give you the opportunity to learn without that you choose. Until you die, you will learn by experience. If positive, you will learn from them how to create a more positive, if negative you will learn what not to do. Either way you will learn something, and grow.
So, we can decide to grow, ie. we decide what positive changes we will bring into our lives, and then we try to control change (that will happen anyway) in a way that what we want. Eg. decide you want a healthier body. And then you’ll need to change diet, to introduce the exercise, to learn about all things, to look for people who have manage what you want etc. Or you can wait that life before you throw a disease, and that also must change the diet and all.
So, you can not escape to a change, but I choose to accept this fact and to change more in a way that I want. I want to control the changes that are happening to me. We do not have much control over the changes that are happening around us. But we have control over us. We can change ourselves, build ourselves. When you change yourself, soon you will affect the environment, if not the other way, then by example to people around you.
So, changes are inevitable. Development is inevitable. The only question is whether you’ll make a conscious decision and affect change (and build yourself and your life as you want). Or you let the change happen by itself.
So, why should you build yourself (grow) ?
Because some form of “self-construction” going on constantly, regardless if you wanted to or not. You always have a choice not to decide, and let it be. It is a slower solution, but it will happen. Or you go, make decisions, build yourself and then by example create circumstances what you want. Finally, if you constantly make (positive) changes that you want, you become more skilled at making positive changes, and so, develop you and your life as you want, on financial, health / physical, social, business, spiritual, and all other “categories” of life (or whatever you call them) .
How to build yourself?
So here are some basic ways, which will probably deepen in future posts.
1. Reading – reading “feed the brain”. I think it is very important to read. By reading you gather new ideas. It do not have to be a professional literature. A new, useful ideas you can get from reading, science fiction, historical books, encyclopedias or “crime and punishment” (Dostoevsky)… or this site 
2. Listening and talking – people are like books. Everyone has a story, some people have a set of negative stories, or positive. There are various types of people, everyone is valuable, and from each you can learn something. From some people you can get valuable lessons, some will teach you why not to be such person . But it is important to see what belief systems exist, so maybe choose a new for yourself, and in this way change and grow.
3. By thinking – this can be dangerous Thinking sometimes can bring us good things and solutions. Thinking can sometimes block us, we can bring jealousy, pain, envy, self-pity, etc.. So in case you use it, mix it with love and it will be ok.
4. Action – this is probably the best way for growth. Books and everything else we can get a good idea. But if you do not apply these idea its will mean very little. It is important to transfer ideas from the mind, to the physical reality, everyday life. In this way, we can get the most knowledge and growth. And while many people believe that the failure is negative, failure can actually be very positive thing. Because you will learn by the failure much, much more than reading books for example, or any other method, although all are useful.
You now can say that almost all is opportunities for building yourself. Well, yes.
Finally, you do not have to strive to improve yourself. It is your choice, not need. But the theme of this site is a personal change affected by your own decisions, so this is for those who have decided to do so.
